Who's Phenom?

Follow me on Twitter @OverWondeful 

Contact me directly by emailing me:  
wonderfully dot phenom @ gmail dot com 

My personal story is set to be featured in the upcoming book, "Trash the Dress:  Stories of Celebrating Divorce in your 20s," authored by the fabulous Joelle Caputa.  

You can follow development of the book on Twitter @DivorceIn20s 
or simply visit: www.trashthedressbook.com

So, who the heck is this Phenom broad?

Me, my backyard and a wine glass dubbed appropriately.

Phenomenal. Yup, that's me.  According to my gay BFF, that is.  Approximately ten years ago, he dubbed me "phenomenal" while training me to wait tables at the local Applebees; a grovelling job that I despised entirely. It didn't take me too long to learn that kissing ass for tip money does not bring out the best in me personality-wise. Regardless, "Phenomenal" stuck, soon shortened to just "Phenom", pronounced "fi-nom" or "feee-nom" depending on what part of the country you are from (or how drunk you are).  If you are anything like my gay BFF, you'll sing that Phish song incessantly, loudly and out of key, whenever I walk into a room:

"Oh, fee, you're trying to live a life that's completely free
You're racing with the wind, you're flirting with death
So have a cup of coffee and catch your breath."

Hmm, maybe my gay BFF has more foresight than originally thought? At the very least, he has ESP.

Anyway, after graduating from college, I moved to Virginia to work as a patent examiner for the United States Patent and Trademark Office and I've been doing that gig now for almost seven years. For the last three, I've worked exclusively from home via the internet, thus cultivating the total social-media and internet junkie I now proclaim to be. I'm grateful for my job, even if I am getting weary of it, mostly because working from home allowed me to move back to New England to be near friends and family when I swiftly decided that I was done living in a shit-fest of a marriage after just two years of "holy" matrimony.

So, here I am. Starting over wonderful for all the world to read about.


Well, this year, I'll be turning I turned 30 and I will be filing for divorce in less than six months.  Just as everyone I know is settling down, I'm starting over as a single mom going through a divorce.  I figured this whole journey of mine might make for some interesting blog fodder, so there you go. So far, the experience has been nothing but wonderful. Except maybe totally freakin' amazing!!?!!

In short, I am a single, working mother with a one-year old son, C (or C-man, the Ham), and a three-year old lab-mix, J, who just might think she is still a new puppy when it comes to obnoxious excitability. I also have ADHD and a biomedical engineering degree (I'm just a shocked as you are, believe me). Oh, and I've recently been trying my hand at freelance photography, blogging and journalism.

Welcome to my practically sleep-less journey! I'll sleep when I'm dead. 'Til then, I run on Dunkins.

Please pardon me ahead of time if I get lost along the way, side-tracked and/or turned around at various points of this journey. I have no idea where exactly wonderful is, or how to get there. I'm feeling my way through this as I go. I also have a narcissistic and/or sociapathic, manipulative, lying soon-to-be-ex (STBX) husband, who is rather a douche canoe if I do say so myself, and he does try and throw me off course every so often too, so please keep that in mind.

Divorce is literally a process. And this is just the beginning of one phenomenal woman's story. So far, I'm learning more about myself, about men and about life itself than I ever thought possible. It is only as wonderful as you want it to be ...

Please, feel free to leave a comment below. 

Let me know that you were here trolling around in my little area here within this massive blogsphere. 

Introduce yourself, ask me a question, pose a topic for a new post you want me to write, ... whatever you want to share, go ahead and share! 

It would be wonderful to hear from you, dear reader. 


  1. We do have alot in common. I turn 30 this year, have a 1 year old, & have a narcissistic, manipulative STBX. So glad to have found your blog!

    1. Glad you have found me! Please keep reading and commenting. I love interacting with readers :)

  2. Just stumbled upon your blog. Just turned 30, 2 kids, and I have one-way tickets booked next month for us from Texas to Michigan, my home state. STBX is my "high school sweetheart." I grew up, and he is in a perpetual state of adolesence. I've got $200 bucks to my name and am throwing myself at the mercy of my family. Your blog has put a smile on my face! Thanx!

    1. I'm sure you already know this, but please make sure you take the necessary legal precautions regarding custody and relocation with the kiddos before you leave the state with them. You don't want to be hauled back to Texas and then thrown in jail for parental "kidnapping". On the serious end, that would be a horrible experience for all involved. On a not-so-serious end, you probably wouldn't be able to keep reading my blog if that happened!!

      Good luck with your starting over journey! There will be plenty of emotional ups and downs ahead for you and your kids, but you'll be stronger in the end. And probably happier too :)

  3. Approaching divorce, 30 and with a newly adopted 4 year old. So glad to see I am not the only one! Let the journey begin!

    1. Welcome! This blog is a tad bit dormant and all with it being summer but I do anticipate getting some new posts up before this month is out. stay tuned!


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